what is wrong with monogamy?

after a combination of events that have happened to my friends, the LOSER (Wes) leaving the bachelorette, and now even the topic of an episode of sex and the city that relate to monogamy, i am about to lose it!

since when is being in a committed relationship such a terrible thing? men and women have been doing it for centuries and they have all survived, so why the sudden resistance? what kind of trend is the 21st century setting? one that i, personally, am not at all a fan of. you meet a great girl. you commit. if you feel the need to wander, you end it and don't lead her on. if you care about someone don't break their heart and then make excuses. and please don't pull the "i care about you, which is why i want the best for you, " BS. all that means is i want to see what else is out there and i don't want to see you cry or hear you yell.

also, backpeddaling is not allowed. you can't go backwards in a relationship. there is no pause button (while i check out what else is out there or figure things out, and then resume when i feel like it). while men may be able to suddenly detach emotions and physical relationships, women have a much harder time. so this "friends with benefits" situation that you see potentially happening in lieu of your break-up... don't even think about it.

there is no maybe or in between. be with me or don't. break my heart or don't. but please don't make me walk the thin line between confusion/crying/hating myself tomorrow. it's the least you could do if you can't commit!!