where does he rank?

so, as i always mention, all of my friends are going through some upsetting and concerning situations, to say the least. in the last two months, all of us have suffered several inappropriate, inconsiderate, and immature behaviors. and each time, i feel like they just get worse! that being said, i have decided to rank them from least to most offensive... and sadly, no matter where a guy a ranks on this list, if he's on... NOT OK!!!

Scenario 1: (We'll start out gentle, and not too shameful...) You have been dating a guy off-and-on for three years and things are going great. You are the best of friends, have so much in common, and you couldn't ask for a better relationship. Then one day, out of the blue, he voices that he doesn't think he ever wants to get married, and therefore you guys should break-up. You stay friends, talk all the time, wish things were different, but all-in-all he is respectful of you and your feelings, he just doesn't want to be with you. Not too terrible.

Scenario 2: You have been "hanging out" with a guy for almost 2 years, and you want to be more, but every time you bring it up, it leads to a huge argument. So, you think to yourself, ok, he doesn't want to be with me. But then, every time you try to distance yourself, or not talk to him, he makes a big deal and makes you feel bad. He does random nice things for you (so confusing!) and wants you as part of his life. But let's be honest... how selfish is that? He knows how you feel, he doesn't feel the same, and yet rather then man up and end it for good.. he strings you along and keeps you with just the right amount of hope to keep coming back. RUDE!

Scenario 3: Similar to scenario 2, you have been "hanging out" with a guys for roughly 2 years. He doesn't want a commitment, but assures you all along that if he did want one, he would be with you, but that he just isn't ready to settle down. This upsets you, but ultimately he treats you pretty good, you have a great connection, and no real cause for complaint. Then one day he starts to become distant, but it's pretty typical so you don't think much of it. Next thing you know, he is dating someone behind your back. What a slap in the face!! He strings you along all this time and then turns around and does exactly what he said he didn't want... with someone else. So what he really should have said the whole time was "I don't want to be in a relationship... with YOU!!!" HURTFUL!

Scenario 4: This one is a doozie... You have been in a committed, and fairly serious, relationship for over a year. Again, things are going along well, but he starts to become distant. When you confront him, at first he says that nothing is wrong. Then all of a sudden it's like world war 3. Every time you talk, it's an argument. Then, he has the nerve to tell you that he is being "tempted" by other women. Clearly, things start to go downhill, but when you confront him, he coldly ends things... ON THE PHONE!! CRUSHING! It gets worse though... in your broken-hearted state, you talk to him about getting your belongings back and he tells you he is going out of town, but will leave a key under the mat. I mean, really?? After a year you can't take 5 minutes to talk to me face-to-face and cordially give me back my belongings??! BULL SH*T!!

So, I guess the moral of the story is that whether there are red flags, or not, beware. Guys can be inconsiderate and hurtful and show no remorse for your feelings, no matter how great they may seem at first! If you see any of these warning signs, or worse yet, these heinous behaviors, my advice is, don't wait around to see how it pans out... because my guess is it's them moving on or leading you on, and you getting hurt... yet again!