"he's just not that into you"

"girls are taught a lot of stuff growing up...if a guy punches you, he likes you. never try to trim your own bangs. and someday, you will meet a wonderful guy and get your very own happy ending. every movie we see, every story we were ever told, implores us to wait for it. the third act twist. the unexpected declaration of love. the "rule." but sometimes, we're so focused on finding our happy ending, we don't learn how to read the signs. how to tell the ones who want us, from the ones who don't. how to tell the ones that will stay from the ones who will leave. and maybe this happy ending doesn't include a wonderful guy. maybe it's you, on your own. picking up the pieces and starting over. preparing yourself up for something better in the future. maybe the happy ending is just... moving on.

or maybe the happy ending is this: knowing that through all the un-returned phone calls and broken hearts. through all the blunders and misread signals. through all of the pain and embarrassment. you never, ever, gave up hope."
-"he's just not that into you" the movie

well let me start off by saying that if you haven't seen this movie, you really need to! every guy and girl should see it because it is all just so true! it addresses issues of dating and relationship that everyone can relate to on some level.

it's funny though how it rings so true, and yet we have such a hard time admitting it. admitting that we, as both men and women, do crazy things when we are interested in someone. and why are we so afraid to tell our friends when they are acting delusional, or even just plain crazy. to say "hey friend, i know he seems like a great guy, but the truth is, if he is treating you that way, then he's just not that into you." i often struggle with this myself, but i think that honesty is truly the best policy. honesty with your friends, and honesty with yourself. because guys can lie all they want and you can choose to believe the lies, but at the end of the day if you are honest with yourself (and your friends) you can avoid a lot of heartbreak in the future.

so girls, as much as it may suck to admit... if he's not treating you the way you deserve to be treated, then HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU and it's time to move on!!