so, like practically every girl in america (or so it seems) i am addicted to the bachelor and the bachelorette. it makes me nervous and embarrassed to watch people make such fools of themselves and get so upset about someone that they have known for a few days or weeks... and yet i find myself rooting for my favorites and tuning in every week!
i have a conversation with my friends all the time about the differences between men and women. men compartmentalize every part of their life. they all seem to want to be financially secure before they settle down, so their career takes first priority, especially in their 20s. while i completely understand the idea behind it, i find it extremely frustrating. women manage to have successful careers and friendships and find themselves often looking for the "missing piece" of a good relationship. men see each part of their life: work, friends, sex, relationships, working out... as completely different entities and it baffles me how those two completley different lifestyles are supposed to eventually magically align.
the episode tonight also made me question the idea of expectations. i'm not saying that women don't set high, or even unrealistic expectations, but i feel like men are much more likely to expect perfection of their potential mate. if only women could learn to all adapt to the mentality that "i'm looking for a perfect mythical unicorn and i will only settle for just that." i think a person can have every quality that you look for, and yet not be the person for you if you don't have that "connection." however, i don't think you can discover that without getting to know someone in a way that goes much beyond physical appearances and first impressions. just some food for thought.
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