"why guys dump girls they dig"

so, sometimes when i am writing i feel like i am alone in my way of thinking. or that maybe it is just something that my friends and i have in common. but today, i was reading this article on msn called "why guys dump girls they dig" and not only did i find it fascinating, but it also seems to go along with a lot of the things i already think, plus a few new ones.

the article gives 5 reasons that guys dump girls that they are really into, seemingly without warning and for no apparent reason (to the girl):
1. the timing is off
so understandable. we have all been there. you are in a great relationship or meet someone that you are totally compatable with, but one of you is just not at the right time in your life to make a commitment.

2. they're not done playing the field
lame! i don't care how many girlfriends you have had or how many flings, but when you meet a great girl and pass her up because you want to see what else is out there... i say don't bother coming back when you're done because i won't be here. but hey, if that's the case, don't lead me on! say "i'm still looking to be a male whore for a while, but it was nice meeting you!" and don't waste my time!

3. they're fixated on the the worst-case scenario
aren't we all? isn't the fear of failure or rejection a big one for everyone? but let's be honest, if we always focus on how badly something could end, we would never take risks, and we would miss out on some really great things in life! so while i understand the hesitation, i don't accept it as a reason not to be with someone!

4. they're in like, not love
again, understandable. we wouldn't want to lead you on, and we expect the same in return, but let me just make one side note. DON'T EVEN THINK ABOUT TELLING ME YOU LOVE ME IF YOU DON'T!!! if we're not in love or not in the same place that is fine. but if you tell me you love me, i assume you mean it. so when you tell me you love me and then break-up with me because you only like me, i say "you're a liar. how dare you? there's the door!"

5. they're TOO into you
what you meant to say is: we have the power. you are in a relationship with a girl that captivates you and you would do anything for and it scares the crap out of you because you don't want to be the one that gets hurt. but maybe instead of breaking up with that girl, you should try to live with it and man-up and accept that maybe having a strong woman that you are crazy about might not actually be the worst thing in the world!

and 4 signs he is getting ready to bail:
1. his phone is always off
aka. RUN! we live in a generation of mobile technology. even the busiest guy probably has his cell phone within reach at most times. so if he's not making himself available to be reached, he's definitely not going to be making himself available to much of anything else!

2. he's reluctant to make plans
don't even get me started on this one. i never knew (until recently) that fear of commitment meant literally a fear to commit to ANYTHING. to even make plans 2 days in advance with a large group of people, not just me. let me tell you, big red flag! if he doesn't want to make plans for next weekend, then he is definitely not going to be willing to plan a future with you, and nothing you can do will change that. he has to reach a point where he is ready... and chances are it won't be anytime soon!

3. he's meaner
why put up with that? if a guy is mean to you at all (and i'm not talking about snapping at you after a bad day at work) get out! life is too short! you may care about him deeply, but if he's mean now, or getting meaner, what kind of life is that? i promise there is someone better out there for you!

4. he's not into sex
every guy is different. but if a guy who usually is very physically intimate with you suddenly doesn't even have a desire, i think it's safe to say it's not a good sign.


So, the next time you get dumped "out of the blue" remember that it is probably not your fault. beware of red flags and don't be too proud or emotional to admit when it's time to cut and run. again, any guy that is worth being with will find a way to make things work with you!

source: http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/articlecosmomatch.aspx?cp-documentid=19563905&page=2